So you want to write your own vows?

by eringoodman on January 27, 2015

in love + marriage

Wedding eve private vow-writing session for a bride-to-be with writer’s block. She spoke from her heart and I gently crafted her words into vows. If you are a wedding client of mine — whether for a custom wedding package or a distance ceremony-writing package — one-on-one support with writing or editing vows is included with my services!

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Writing your own wedding vows can be tricky work. Luckily, there are a lot of resources out there on the Internet for writing your own wedding vows. These are three of my favorites:

10 Steps to Writing Your Own Wedding Vows | The Knot

My favorite tip from this article:

“Take some time to reflect on your fiancé. Think about how you felt when you first met, what made you fall in love and when you knew you wanted to get married. Write it all out. Here are some questions to get you started:

  • Why did you decide to get married?
  • What hard times have you gone through together?
  • What have you supported each other through?
  • What challenges do you envision in your future?
  • What do you want to accomplish together?
  • What makes your relationship tick?
  • What did you think when you first saw your fiancé?
  • When did you realize you were in love?
  • What do you most respect about your partner?
  • How has your life gotten better since meeting your mate?
  • What about them inspires you?
  • What do you miss most about them when you are apart?
  • What qualities do you most admire in each other?”

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How to Write Your Own Wedding Vows | Jessie Blum for Offbeat Bride

My favorite tip from this article:

Begin by talking about something you love about your partner, or something they have contributed to their lives.  This is a great spot to include an anecdote or story that brings this moment to life.  For example, in my own wedding, my husband talked about the day that we met, and how that was the day that his whole life changed.

Next, include some promises. Ones that you will look to guide your marriage.  These can be serious: “I promise to stand by your side, and bring out the best in you, in all adventures.” Or a little sillier: “I promise to laugh at your jokes (most of the time).”  In fact, I think the best vows are a beautiful balance of seriousness and humor.

And now, let’s end it with a look to the future.  What do you look forward to sharing in your marriage?  What are your goals, your aspirations, the qualities you want to embody as a couple?”

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Six Steps to Writing Meaningful Wedding Vows | Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway for Huff Post Weddings

My favorite tip from this article:

Connect to the feelings. Before you write, take a moment of to reconnect to the energy and magic that made you want to get married. Remember the moment you recognized your relationship was meant to be; reflect on the excitement of the day you became engaged.  Think of the little things that your beloved does to make you happy. Let the feelings flow and the vows will likely flow out, too.  Start writing down the thoughts that surface.”

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How about you? Did you or will you write your own wedding vows? Any tips to add?


Beautiful sunflowers that have nothing to do with this letter but I just needed to gaze at them on this dark January day and thought you might enjoy them too!

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Two young men approached my register at the café where I work.

The first quickly placed his order, complete with a cookie for dessert, and headed towards the soda fountain while I waited on his friend.

The second young man  was less sure of his order and took a few moments to deliberate, finally deciding on a sandwich and chips, and handed me his credit card.

I processed the transaction and the card came back as declined. I processed it again, as I always do, but still it was declined.

“Do you have another method to pay?” I asked gently. “This card has been declined.”

“I don’t,” he said, shrugging his shoulders. “This is all I have. I guess I have to cancel my order.”

I processed the credit card one last time, hoping it would go through, but of course, it did not.

I hesitated for a moment, wondering if perhaps my manager would buy this young man’s lunch if I asked, when his friend walked back over, sipping his soda through a straw.

“My card was declined,” my customer said. “I can’t get my lunch. I’ll just sit with you, man.”

“Wait. What?” his friend responded, reaching for his wallet. “No way, man. I got you. Don’t worry. I got you.”

He handed me a twenty and told his friend, “Don’t worry about it. You don’t owe me anything. I got this. I got you.”

As the boys walked away, I smiled. What beautiful words to hear a friend say.

Don’t worry. I’ve got you.

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How about you? Do you have people in your life who’ve “got you” when you need them? Do you offer the same support to others?


Love + Light . . .



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On Solstice Eve

by eringoodman on December 20, 2014

in holidays + celebrations


I am wishing you light + peace and gentle moments with those you love.

Thank you for sharing 2014 with me.

Love + Light . . .



Ahhh. The holiday season. The most wonderful time of the year.

Family gatherings. Gift giving. Twinkle lights.

There is something very magical about this time of year, no matter how old you are.

But unfortunately for many of us, it is also the most stressful time of the year.

Travel. Entertaining. Holiday spending. Family expectations.

The holidays can be downright overwhelming and exhausting.

This year I want to help you to have a different holiday experience, to consciously choose and create just how you will celebrate.

Enter Slow Holidays: An Online Holiday Retreat

My intention with this Pay-What-You-Can online program is to help you to create more of the moments that matter most during this holiday season and to give you a quiet space and supportive community to retreat into during the month of December.

Those of you who have participated in my past online programs know that this will be a gentle experience and will not in any way add to your holiday to-do list. This program will do the exact opposite. It will guide you to identify what is most important to you and to set clear intentions for how you want to experience the holiday season, while celebrating the small, daily moments.

Similar to my Planting the Seeds online workshop, this program will run for three weeks (starting December 1) and I will create a video centering / lesson for you each week. We will culminate with a virtual gathering (via telephone) on Monday, December 22.

It’s going to be a gentle and wonderful experience and I do hope you’ll join me.


Click the image above or right HERE for more details and to register for this Pay-What-You-Can program!



Over the weekend, I was scrolling through the photos on my phone and I realized I’ve seen some pretty cool ideas at weddings this year. I thought it would be fun to pull some together in a post and share with you.

1. Instant Camera Selfie Station

2. Beach Stones and Sharpies for a Guest Book

3. Flower Seed Packets as Wedding Favors

4. Hanging Vases of Flowers

5. Homemade Paper Flowers as a Bridal Bouquet

How about you? What fun ideas have you seen at weddings?

For those who are married, what fun and creative things did you do at your wedding?