{Cousins canoeing. A special moment from this weekend.}

My mom begins each day by praying the Rosary and reading scripture-based meditations.

On days when I am not racing out the door to work, she often reads me an excerpt that has really spoken to her, and we gently discuss how it applies in our lives as we sip our coffee.

As she reads, I do my best not to get hung up on language that may not feel comfortable for me and listen beneath the words for the underlying lessons and universal truths.

It is a beautiful morning ritual that I treasure deeply.

Today she shared the following passage that really spoke to both of us:

“We can know something about God when we pay attention to his presence deep within ourselves. We can also know something about him by paying attention to the people and things outside of ourselves. God is fully present at every moment in everything he has made….Some years ago, I read about a bumper sticker printed with these words: ‘Having a wonderful time. Wish I were here!’ It made me laugh, but I later thought, ‘How sad!’ How much we miss when we don’t notice the goodness of the people and the environment that surrounds us. How much we miss of God’s presence that shines through everything he has made.’

(From Living Faith, Daily Catholic Devotions)

That line — “Having a wonderful time. Wish I were here!” — really stuck with me as I moved through my day.

How often are all of us guilty of going through the motions and checking things off our long to-do lists without really being present to those around us, the very people we love most.

I find that simply closing my eyes, taking a deep centering breath and asking to see the world through the eyes of God (Spirit…Love…Source…) is one practice that really helps me to be more present. Having a few minutes alone every day to write and reflect also helps me too.

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How about you? What helps you to be truly present to those you love and the beauty of the world around you?

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September 11, 2010

While this is a somber day of prayer and remembrance for our world, and like you, I have been feeling all the feelings that it evokes, it is also the anniversary of a day of profound joy for me.

Five years ago, on September 11, 2010, I officiated my first wedding ceremony at Channing Memorial Church in Newport, Rhode Island.

My training was a combination of a communications degree, years of professional writing, yoga teacher training, Reiki training, an online minister’s certificate, a year of mentorship with the amazing Rev. Deborah Catherine Faith and a deep desire to serve this world as a (different kind of) minister.

Five years later, as I sit here reflecting on this journey, my own marriage has ended (earlier this year), I am about to begin my second year of Interfaith Seminary and I am pursuing additional training so that I can offer a formal marriage preparation program to my clients.

I really don’t know how many couples I have worked with over the past five years (I am SO not a numbers person) but I do know that each of my clients have touched me in a deep and personal way and that I have grown so much through our work together.

Tonight my heart is filled with peace and deep gratitude for all who have guided, supported and walked with me on this path.

Namaste, friends.




Several years ago I scribbled these words on the back of a ceremony script while the rain poured down and guests stepped over puddles:

“Nobody plans for rain on their wedding day. But I actually believe it is a blessing to be juggling umbrellas and discussing “Plan B” as you begin your marriage.

This is what marriage is.

We don’t get to control all the external circumstances in our life, but we do get to choose how we react and how we relate to those we love.

We get to choose to focus on what matters most. And what matters most is right here, right now.”

I’ve carried these words tucked in the back of my wedding binder ever since — for days like today, when the sky opens up moments before an outdoor garden ceremony is scheduled to begin.

I believe these words with all my heart.

(Today, I’m happy to say, we were able to have an outdoor ceremony…after the rain passed.)


Last month I had the pleasure of attending a four-day intensive spiritual retreat at the beautiful Stony Point Center in Stony Point, NY, and wanted to share a few photos I took during the week.

The week was the culmination of my first year of seminary at One Spirit Alliance and it was an incredible experience. Stony Point Center is an absolutely beautiful retreat center / intentional community and it was so nourishing to spend four days there with my seminary peers and teachers.

The lovely people in the last photo with me are the members of my virtual study group. We have been meeting twice a month on a group Skype call since last September and this week was the first opportunity for us to all be in each other’s presence and share hugs, meals and walks around the campus. It was truly a gift.

So very grateful for the sacred community I have found at One Spirit.


A favorite moment from my walk today. (I just love forsythia!)

When my children were small and the days at home with them were sometimes long, I started a new bedtime ritual to help us focus on the positive moments.

As I lie with them in their beds and rub their backs or stroke their hair, I ask:

What was the best part of your day?

Some days the responses bubble over and other days we all have to think for a bit.

One particularly challenging day when my daughter was about four-years-old, she responded to my question by nuzzling into my neck and whispering, “Right now, Mama,” and I felt the struggles of the day melt away.

Something I have noticed over the years, as my children are now eight and 10 and I still ask them this question (and answer it myself), is that I am much more “tuned in” during the day and will frequently have a feeling that washes over me that says…This. Yes, this. This is the best part of my day.

Sometimes I stop and take a photo of the moment.

And sometimes I just quietly savor it in my heart, whisper “Thank you,” to the Divine, and file it away for bedtime reflections.


How about you, my friend? What was the best part of YOUR day?


Love + Light . . .



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