Tillinghast Farm, a private property owned by Rhode Island School of Design (RISD), in Barrington, RI was the setting for Geoff + Julia’s beautiful June, 2015 wedding ceremony and reception.
(Yes, I am playing catch up on blogging. Big time. Thank you for your patience.)
One of my (many) favorite things about this gorgeous wedding was the handmade ceramic bells that Julia designed as wedding favors. Everything about this day was just so lovely.
Congratulations Geoff + Julia. Thank you for inviting me to be part of your special day.
September 11, 2010
While this is a somber day of prayer and remembrance for our world, and like you, I have been feeling all the feelings that it evokes, it is also the anniversary of a day of profound joy for me.
Five years ago, on September 11, 2010, I officiated my first wedding ceremony at Channing Memorial Church in Newport, Rhode Island.
My training was a combination of a communications degree, years of professional writing, yoga teacher training, Reiki training, an online minister’s certificate, a year of mentorship with the amazing Rev. Deborah Catherine Faith and a deep desire to serve this world as a (different kind of) minister.
Five years later, as I sit here reflecting on this journey, my own marriage has ended (earlier this year), I am about to begin my second year of Interfaith Seminary and I am pursuing additional training so that I can offer a formal marriage preparation program to my clients.
I really don’t know how many couples I have worked with over the past five years (I am SO not a numbers person) but I do know that each of my clients have touched me in a deep and personal way and that I have grown so much through our work together.
Tonight my heart is filled with peace and deep gratitude for all who have guided, supported and walked with me on this path.
Several years ago I scribbled these words on the back of a ceremony script while the rain poured down and guests stepped over puddles:
“Nobody plans for rain on their wedding day. But I actually believe it is a blessing to be juggling umbrellas and discussing “Plan B” as you begin your marriage.
This is what marriage is.
We don’t get to control all the external circumstances in our life, but we do get to choose how we react and how we relate to those we love.
We get to choose to focus on what matters most. And what matters most is right here, right now.”
I’ve carried these words tucked in the back of my wedding binder ever since — for days like today, when the sky opens up moments before an outdoor garden ceremony is scheduled to begin.
I believe these words with all my heart.
(Today, I’m happy to say, we were able to have an outdoor ceremony…after the rain passed.)
Over the weekend, I was scrolling through the photos on my phone and I realized I’ve seen some pretty cool ideas at weddings this year. I thought it would be fun to pull some together in a post and share with you.
1. Instant Camera Selfie Station
2. Beach Stones and Sharpies for a Guest Book
3. Flower Seed Packets as Wedding Favors
4. Hanging Vases of Flowers
5. Homemade Paper Flowers as a Bridal Bouquet
How about you? What fun ideas have you seen at weddings?
For those who are married, what fun and creative things did you do at your wedding?
My most recent wedding ceremony took place in the cozy back patio space at the Duck & Bunny in Providence, RI.
When I met with the bride and groom to talk about their intentions for their ceremony, they said that they really wanted it to feel like a big party with a wedding in the middle, rather than having the wedding ceremony be the main event. And I think that is just what we were able to create; a nice short and simple wedding ceremony wrapped by a lovely afternoon party.
Before the ceremony started (I always arrive about an hour early to get settled in and coordinate with other vendors) I spent some time inside the Duck & Bunny, enjoying the cozy, sweetness of the place while the bride and groom greeted each of their guests personally as they arrived.
And then it was out to the back patio where the ceremony took place.
After the ceremony, I stuck around to hear the groom’s young son give his (flawless!) best man’s speech and then as I exited through the restaurant, I paused to take one last photo of the bride’s beautiful homemade paper flower bouquet.
It was a relaxing afternoon at a lovely venue and I am grateful that I got to be a part of it.