So you want to write your own vows?

by eringoodman on January 27, 2015

in Erin Goodman Ceremonies, love + marriage

Wedding eve private vow-writing session for a bride-to-be with writer’s block. She spoke from her heart and I gently crafted her words into vows. If you are a wedding client of mine — whether for a custom wedding package or a distance ceremony-writing package — one-on-one support with writing or editing vows is included with my services!

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Writing your own wedding vows can be tricky work. Luckily, there are a lot of resources out there on the Internet for writing your own wedding vows. These are three of my favorites:

10 Steps to Writing Your Own Wedding Vows | The Knot

My favorite tip from this article:

“Take some time to reflect on your fiancé. Think about how you felt when you first met, what made you fall in love and when you knew you wanted to get married. Write it all out. Here are some questions to get you started:

  • Why did you decide to get married?
  • What hard times have you gone through together?
  • What have you supported each other through?
  • What challenges do you envision in your future?
  • What do you want to accomplish together?
  • What makes your relationship tick?
  • What did you think when you first saw your fiancé?
  • When did you realize you were in love?
  • What do you most respect about your partner?
  • How has your life gotten better since meeting your mate?
  • What about them inspires you?
  • What do you miss most about them when you are apart?
  • What qualities do you most admire in each other?”

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How to Write Your Own Wedding Vows | Jessie Blum for Offbeat Bride

My favorite tip from this article:

Begin by talking about something you love about your partner, or something they have contributed to their lives.  This is a great spot to include an anecdote or story that brings this moment to life.  For example, in my own wedding, my husband talked about the day that we met, and how that was the day that his whole life changed.

Next, include some promises. Ones that you will look to guide your marriage.  These can be serious: “I promise to stand by your side, and bring out the best in you, in all adventures.” Or a little sillier: “I promise to laugh at your jokes (most of the time).”  In fact, I think the best vows are a beautiful balance of seriousness and humor.

And now, let’s end it with a look to the future.  What do you look forward to sharing in your marriage?  What are your goals, your aspirations, the qualities you want to embody as a couple?”

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Six Steps to Writing Meaningful Wedding Vows | Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway for Huff Post Weddings

My favorite tip from this article:

Connect to the feelings. Before you write, take a moment of to reconnect to the energy and magic that made you want to get married. Remember the moment you recognized your relationship was meant to be; reflect on the excitement of the day you became engaged.  Think of the little things that your beloved does to make you happy. Let the feelings flow and the vows will likely flow out, too.  Start writing down the thoughts that surface.”

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How about you? Did you or will you write your own wedding vows? Any tips to add?

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